Family Affection Is Giving or The Hands Push Others to Abyss

 

This blog will talk about family affection, which is the relationship between parents and children. There is a quote in Mandarin that explain family affection, which I think is suitable for the writing in this blog, stated below: 

‘Family affection is silent, but it's as deep as the sea; 

Family affection is silent, but it’s as heavy as the mountain’

Many people seem to be taught from childhood to listen to what their parents say. “They are older than you; they have more experience than you; they overcome more obstacles than you, so it is right to listen to them.” But did you ever have any idea about wanting to escape from when you were growing up? 

Parents too often impose their ideas on their children based on their experiences, past, and failures. But few of them know about what their children think and what they want. Parents always use their understanding and experience to help their children avoid pitfalls, arrange their children’s future, and use their values to measure everything for their children. They always say ‘I did this for your own good’ to explain the action of their arrangement for the children. But is this ‘for your own good’ really beneficial to the children?

The more the action of ‘for your own good’ is imposed on the children, the more the relationship between parents and their children is alienated, and the more the children want to escape from that. Because of the dissent for both parents and children, children either completely suppress themselves, their ideas, their thoughts, their voice; or completely block each other out for intergenerational separation, which seems to be the only solution for this situation. Sometimes, the unintentional verbal violence from the closest person around is more subtle and more penetrating. Parental love is too heavy and suffocating occasionally, their inadvertent words that will hurt even more and take root in the hearts of children. This is the same when it goes for children to parents. Parental love is selfless but it is selfish at the same time. 

But most of us have forgotten that this is the first time for everyone to become parents and also children in their life. Most of them are not love each other but in the wrong way. Since it is the first time for everyone to be parents and children in their life, why not we learn together during the life journey and make ourselves better people so that we can tell others what is love in your way, and learn how to love together. 

‘Love is giving;

Love is inclusive;

Love is granting choice’

FAMILY IS LOVE, NOT THE HANDS TO PUSH EACH OTHER INTO THE ABYSS